Monday, August 31, 2009


To tired and lazy to compose some cohesive thoughts so...

  • We have gotten our photos back and they are amazing, just waiting for the disk so I can upload a few
  • Was a huge homebody this weekend, I left the house once on Saturday.
  • We found a lost cat in our complex yesterday afternoon, thankfully it turned out to be our neighbors
  • Did massive amounts of laundry
  • We are halfway done with out thank you notes.
  • I heart my new crock pot, love it.
  • My house is looking better then a few days ago
  • I have to cancel my dentist appointment this week, no change in the coffers right now
  • We have to get our marriage licence, I got to start the name changing process
  • Thinks fall came in July
  • I can't beleive my birthday is coming up, where did a year go.
  • Plans to finally post some items on Craigslist to sell
  • I could not get out of bed this morning because the cat was all cuddly

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

The bell blues

I have been feeling kind of blue lately. Perhaps it is the post-wedding "back to reality" phase. The Hubs mentioned that when we were on our honeymoon and did not have to think about work and the stresses of being home, some things that we have been pushing aside have re-surfaced. Things that will affect our future that you do think about during the engagement process but it gets shelved. They are not bad but they are practical questions that we, frankly, have to consider and talk about. Things that freak me out and cause me to worry and consider the options (Kids, career, wills etc)

On top of this I am feeling somewhat bitter. I don't want to get into why I am bitter about a few things because it would be feeding into it and I just don't want to do it. I should be happy but part of me is still hurt and upset about a few things. Bitter and blue make for a not-so-fun combo!

So while this is swirling in my head, my issues with self esteem have re-surfaced as well and let's just say, I am not too happy with a few things (things that I can't change and things I can). I have to start my gym routine again (I decided to start in September) and slowly get rid of clothes and shoes to de-clutter and save for some better outfits. But in the meantime, I am still having my issues and I can't pass the hump.

I am really missing my friends and family who made the trek for our wedding. It is hard knowing that I will not be seeing them for the rest of the year and may not be able to see them until late next year.

I feel stuck in a rut so to speak, I have all this pent up energy that gets wasted since I used it all to work on favors, seating cards etc. Now I just go home, cook (sometimes) and vet out in front of the TV or read. The Hubs mentioned that he is feeling the same way. So we have decided to look at taking a few classes independently me beading and painting and for him classes in digital photography. Well we plan on this once the coffers fill up again.

I just don't know what to do with myself in the meantime.

Monday, August 24, 2009

The BIG day

I actually slept the night before our wedding. Not too long but I was able to get in a few hours. I was staying at the hotel of our reception so it made things easier.

I was up before my alarm, took a shower, ordered room service and just had some "me" time before things started to ramp up. I was on a media black out, I just wanted some quiet time.

The chaos started at 9:30 with my hairdresser (love her) starting on the girls. In the meantime, I was under the assumption that my brother was on his way from the airport to the hotel. Until I saw my mom! She started conferring with my matron of honor and all I could see were hand gestures they were speaking softly. I had to find out what was going on. They did not want to tell me, but finally my MOH blurts out "There was a bomb scare in LaGuardia and they had to evacuate the airport.". My brother was on his plane ready to take off when they had to go back to the gate, evacuate the plane, evacuate the terminal, get the all clear and start the process over again. His 6:30 flight left two hours late.

Needless to say, I was a bit freaking out. Thankfully, we were able to track his flight and once we saw that it took off, we were relieved. Some of my mom's friends were unable to make it as their airlines could not accommodate them in time.

At 11:40 am, I got a text from my brother telling me he is at the hotel. Less than two hours before we had to leave for the church.

There was some high fiving and tears of relief as he made it.

I will do some more re-caps in the next few weeks once I get my photos!

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

The text and why I got so stressed...

So the 11:30 text….here is a bit of the background

A few weeks before the wedding, Hubs sent out an email to the entire wedding party telling them not to be late. As an aside to the groomsmen, he asked that they try on their tux at the shop in case they needed any alterations or changes. It apparently amused some people but for the most part put the fear of God in others. We had to send that email out because there was one person in the party who is notoriously late and he was a part of our day so if he was late I would kill him. (we are talking hours late not a few minutes).

So my brother (not the late one) was a bit nervous and asked us to pick him up from the airport so that he can try on and pay for his tux. Well he decided (against my pleads not to) to fly in on Friday morning. Flying into/out of O'Hare is never a smooth experience. I have had flights delayed or canceled more than I have had them leave/arrive on time. So I asked him to come in Thursday but he wanted to arrive Friday morning.

Well the 11:30 text…"My 8 am flight was canceled, re-booked for 1". Meaning that he will barely arrive with time to get the tux, shower and head to the rehearsal. Ok fine, we'll pick him up and drive like hell.

we woke up without a care In the world, we were getting married in one day. So we looked at our to do list and had to run an errand that included getting my brother, a back pack, picking up pies and a cake and then head home to get ready for our rehearsal. As per my brother, the flight was still on time so we went our merry way. Accomplished 1/5 of our errands when the phone rang…it was Hubs' brother. He was staying with a friend and did not know how he was going to make it to the rehearsal (he is a cheap-o and did not want to pay for a cab). so we agreed to pick him up, have him get ready at our place and take him with us. Except, when we got closer to his friend's place he was out to lunch! We finally picked him up and then went to pick up pies. Traffic in Chicago was a nightmare. It took us almost 4 hours to get 4 things done (we picked up my brother's tux without him)!

Well that 1 pm flight that my brother was scheduled for left on time did a circle and landed back at the original airport. Engine problems…he was not sure when the next flight would be. So he has me freaking out, my mom and I were on the phone nonstop. Although at this point it was more her and my brother figuring out what to do. I felt like vomiting and was so stressed out.

Finally, I am home, showered and ready to go to our rehearsal, the Hubs is showered and ready to go, his brother is showered and taking a nap!

We woke him up and raced to our rehearsal (we were late which was a joke considering the email). We had the rehearsal (with stand ins for my bro) , I got to talk to some wedding party members who I have not seen in ages, and we headed out to eat.

The dinner was nice and loud with my nieces dancing around and the wine flowing. My father-in-law gave a lovely speech and our party loved their gifts.

The fate of my brother at this time is unknown...

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

From the start...

I have decided to post pone some re-caps until we get some photos so that you can see parts of our day.

It was a whirlwind, so I am going to chronicle the days leading up to the wedding:

My bridesmaid j9 had the Hubs, my parents and I over for dinner. She made a feast for us and wanted to do something to help so she made us dinner. Everyone had a great time especially my mom and her husband who talked smacked about each other's NY baseball team. (Mom is a huge Mets fan aka anti-Yankee) so it was fun to watch.


We both decided to take Thursday off and since my matron of honor was in town, it was a declared girls day. We met her at the hotel where we had to drop some things off and then he did his thing and we did ours. So she and I headed back to our place and she helped me clean up and tidy up. It was so needed and it was fun to have someone just as silly as you helping out. Afterwards, we went to pick up the dress so, we headed downtown. The best thing that the bridal shop could have done was just give us the dress at reception which they did, MR was ready to tell the head of alterations off after the first incident that happened when she called me fat and said a few nasty things and then threatened to charge me for her mistake. MR is a Brooklyn girl so you do not mess with her girls. Thankfully, she did not get to use the speech she was preparing in the car.

Once we got the dress, we headed back to the hotel since she was the keeper of the dress. We laid it out and she started to get teary. She had not seen the dress nor have I showed them any pictures. She got goose bumps and kept hugging me. We of course had to call my mom who was at the hotel and she came up and we ogled the dress.

Finally, it was mani and pedi time so we went up to a spa in Evanston. Afterwards, Hubs met up with us for wings and we had a blast hanging out. Afterwards, she headed back to the hotel and we went home.

Around 9 we got a call from some of my friends who landed at Midway and were coming to stay with j9 but since she and her husband were at the Sox/Yankee game, they came to stay at our place until j9 got back. It was good to catch up with them for a few hours before the wedding since I did not really get to see them afterwards.

At 11:30 pm a text came in for me that was the biggest stress of the weekend….

Monday, August 17, 2009

The flip side

Aaaand we're back...Married and jet lagged but back.

I will be writing a re-cap or two over the next few days.

But married and happy.