Thursday, December 31, 2009
I hope that 2010 brings each of you a lot of love and happiness.
Happy New Year!
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Her name is Rosie and is one year old. The hubs and I adopted her from a local shelter last Friday with Yukon in attendance.
They are getting along really well and spend their days playing "I want the toy you have" and cuddling on the doggy beds. Yukon is taking with her and has been a good sport. We've all be going on long walks and are working to develop the pack leadership.
Chaplin is a bit confused because she is a dog yet smaller than him. They have been testing each other out and have gotten to the tolerated part. Although he loves her crate!
The hubs and I have our hands full but, in a good way. We did our research and made sure that our priorities were the safety and well being of our first two pets. She is the perfect fit and is a love bug. It is only a matter of time before they are all sharing the same bed.
It has been worth it!
Friday, December 18, 2009
But it still means that I can sleep in and spend the day doing things that I want to be done. It is more of a staycation and I can't wait.
The main projects of my days off are to clean the condo from room to room. I created an aggressive list with what needs to be done and starting on Monday I am tacking the kitchen and bathroom. Tuesday will be spent in the office. Wednesday is a cooking day and doing the living room. The following week is the bedroom. I want to start the New Year in a gleaming spotless home.
I am also cutting myself some slack because I want to rest, catch up on some movies and do some beading. I also want to spend some time in a museum and making some yummy goodies.
It is going to be such a fulfilling way to end 2009.
Monday, December 14, 2009
I have also been planning our Christmas eve meal, I have decided to make:
A frisee salad with warm goat cheese
Popovers (from Trader Joe's)
For dessert, I am not sure. I was thinking cream brulee but that may be too much. So I am thinking a simple apple tart.
It is just the Hubs and I that night and I wanted to start our own traditions so I figure that re-creating a meal we had on our honeymoon is a lovely start. Since we are spending the next day with his fam, I am going to make a two types of cupcakes for dessert! The hubs requested a banana cupcake with chocolate frosting and I know my niece loves red velvet so we may have to make those two.
Now, I have to plan New Year's eve! But this is my last week of work so I think that I can spend next week planning how to ring in 2010.
What about you, any new intimate holiday traditions this year?
Monday, December 07, 2009
Just some random happenings:
- Got certified in Six Sigma as a Yellow Belt. I am very excited because the process will help me at my job! Not sure if I want to move to green belt but we shall see.
- Found out that our wedding was featured in our Alumni magazine.
- We got our Christmas tree, we put it up and it looks lovely.
- I got about 75% of my Christmas shopping done, but I know what I am getting for the 25%
- I experienced history repeating itself-and I am over it
- Spent time in some old haunts this past week, it was weird and seems like it was another life.
- It looks like we will pay off a good chunk of debt this week
- Working with the hubs to get rid of clutter.
What are your happenings?
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
What was the last book you bought?
Depends on what you mean "bought" ever since I got the Kindle I download. The last book I downloaded was "The New York Regional Mormon Singles Halloween Dance". It sounded like something different that I may like. I have been keeping my reading fun lately
Name a book you have read MORE than once.
There are a few actually. I re-read "To Kill a Mockingbird", I read it in HS and then in my 20s and it was totally different for me each time. I love Scout. I also re-read, The little Prince and the Alchemist
Has a book ever fundamentally changed the way you see life?
Every book affects me in one way shape or form
These are my top five:
1. To Kill a Mockingbird
2. The Little Prince
3. Gone with the Wind
4. My Life in France : Julia Child
5. A Tree Grows in Brooklyn
(6-The Red Tent)
How do you choose a book? (e.g. by cover design and summary, recommendations or reviews).
Varies, I rend to look at recommendations. Typically, if I like the author I will read more of their books. Most web sites tend to have the if you like this book then you will like XXXX book. My friends have offered great suggestions as well. But, I go through phases where I want to know about a particular subject and I will read as many books as I can about that subject until I am burned out. I went through this a few years ago when I wanted to find out about Buddism, then the Tutors and then the court life of Louis XIV. I am more on a chick lit kick lately.
Do you prefer Fiction or Non-Fiction?
I mostly read fiction but I do dabble in Non Fiction if the subject interests me.
Which book or books can be found on your nightstand at the moment?
Well the books there are to hold my lamp up (seriously) but my Kindle I have been reading
The Reading Group. Next is The Knitting Group or the Blind Assassin.
What was the last book you’ve read, and when was it?
The Lost Symbol-total disappointment
Have you ever given up on a book halfway in?
If I really don't like the book. I tend to give it a shot but if it is really bad I give up and on to the next book.
What are the best books you've read this year?
So many...especially since I read a lot during my honeymoon. Lets see:
1. My life in France-Julia Child
2. Mastering the Art of French Cooking
4. The Unlikely Disciple
5. The Shopaholic (followed by Shopaholic takes Manhattan, and Shopaholic gets married)
6. Best Friends
7. Eat, Pray, Love
8. In Her Shoes
9. Love the one you are with
10. Certain Girls
11. How Japan took the JAP out of me.
So what about you?
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
In a nut shell, it said that healthy women (who do not have a history of breast cancer in their family) can push mammograms until they are 50. Then they should only have them every other year. The long standing age has been 40 with a recommended mammogram every year (unless you have a history of breast cancer).
Part of the reasoning behind the study is that as you age (specifically 50 and up) your are more likely to get breast cancer than most women in their 40s and many women in their 40s experience false positives that forces them to undergo further testing, biopsies and causes them undo stress. They also say that self breast examination is not necessary as they lead to more mamograms and biopsies for non cancerous bumps.
Obviously, one of the opponents of this new recommendation is the American Cancer Society who encourage women to get yearly mammograms after age 40. Especially since early detection increases the treatment options and life span.
My question to you is would you rather have a false positive and be subjected to further testing after age 40 or would you do what the new recommended guidelines are and start at 50?
For me, I would rather start at age 40 and if there is nothing after the first mamogram, then every other year. But I would rather experience a false positive early than risk a later stage cancer at age 50.
What are your thoughts?
Do you self examine?
Monday, November 16, 2009
We have our netflix streamed in so the Hubs is in one room watching Lost and I have been able to watch some interesting movies that I recommend:
Confessions of a Superhero
Kramer vs. Kramer
Yesterday, I made some pulled pork for today and as leftovers for the week. I am so relieved that I don't have to cook tonight.
We also spent about a hour and half researching and discussing our health care options now that we are married. While my plan has the extra pharmacy benefits, it will cost an arm and part of a leg. His has great co-pay and cost sharing options but, my monthly costs on prescriptions alone will cost a lot more. It is more than frustrating.
As the hubs said the other day "I wonder if all this health care options in Congress, will get more steam as people try to figure out how much more they will pay one way or another while open enrollment is active."
What are your thoughts?
Monday, November 09, 2009
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Anyone venture a guess to what it means?
Friday, November 06, 2009
With my mom
The best man prep
Counting the minutes
With my dad
Our two centerpieces and cake and cupcakes
Monday, November 02, 2009
My to do list is growing and I have to get on it, but I really have no motivation to do so. I just have to get up and do it….maybe this weekend.
Actually, I have some plans to take care of a few things this week during the week so that I can actually veg out and relax over the weekend. I plan on getting some accomplished!
so what is on my to do list:
-Take the wedding dress to the cleaners
-Clean out my bookshelves and take them to the half price book store
-Mail a package to my Mom
-Print some wedding photos for mom for said package
-Upload my wedding photos
-Finish Name change
-List our gocco for sale
-List our bookshelves for sale
We'll see how much I get done.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Last night, the girls ,Diana's mom and I went to a class at the Chopping Block, it was by Dawn Jackson Blatner and it was so good. She made some lovely dishes for the appetizer theme. We got to eat some Indian Samosas with an Indian pesto, goat cheese zucchini rolls, Thai lettuces wraps and chocolate covered grapes! Everything was so good. It will help to know how to make healthy meatless meals since Hubs and I were thinking of adding one meat free meal a week to our diet (one that is not pizza or mac and cheese).
I am quite pleased with how I cut my spending drastically last month. My credit card bill (minus the wedding debt we are still paying off ) was so low. I plan to put some more money in savings. But this month is going to be a killer thanks to my dentist bill that did not meet my deductible. Well you win some and you lose some. I am just glad to know some of our sacrifices are starting to pay off. Next on our list, we are selling some things that we do not need anymore and I am going to clean and sell my wedding dress.
What is on In your world?
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
We headed out on Friday afternoon about 45 minutes earlier than our original intention due to the fact that Hubs, forgot to read a portion of the email that mentioned that there was in fact going to be a rehearsal. We did make it to our hotel early but underestimated the distance between the hotel and wedding site, so we ended up being 10 minutes late. It was cold and windy and I had a dress that I bought in Paris and strappy sandals, not my best idea, nor was the cup of tea that I thought was decaf at 9 pm.
Saturday, exhausted and grumpy, I drove the groom and his brothers to the wedding site. It was fun to have them all in the car since they have this history that I get to learn about. Like how two of them picked corn for a summer and that if cows are sitting it meant rain. The ride back to the hotel was not as fun. I headed to the site again with Hubs' aunt and we waited inside for the wedding to start. It was an outside wedding and while I was wearing a cute dress and the same sandals, I was warm….spanx to the rescue. I was holding my soon to be 3 year old niece to prevent her from running up and down the aisle. Hubs told me that I looked like I was holding on to her for dear life but hey she had a down coat and it kept me warm too (that was my real plan)
They had a cute and meaningful ceremony, surrounded by their family and friends in a very pretty outside ceremony. I have never seen Hubs' brother so happy.
The reception was fun, the food was great, the father daughter dance was awesome and the groom and two groomsmen played a song for the bride. We caught up with family and everything was lovely.
Now they are in Paris and I am slightly envious.
It was a lovely time (minus some family drama but, hey what wedding is not void of drama).
***I know I owe you all some wedding photos and I promise they are coming.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
A few weeks ago we went to an apple festival and this past weekend we went to his friend's house for chili. I had an awesome time meeting his friend's wife and sweet kids. Their son called me a princess and we were fast buddies when we played with his Batman toys. They had such a simple and clean house that has inspired me to start getting rid of clutter that has plagued us for the past few months. (does anyone need unbleached tote bags, I have about 12 of them)
this weekend we have a wedding, Hub's brother is getting married. We are glad to be guests and that we may actually eat. However, we have been both dragged into some family drama but, Hubs and I have talked about it and we've decided to stay out of it.
I have been making some beaded necklaces ever since I took a beading class. I am hoping to sell a few of them but I first have to build my inventory. So I have been working on that the past few days during my free time.
So things are looking up….
Monday, October 12, 2009
You got down on your knee and asked me to marry you...and we did.
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
-I took a candy making class with CBN and Diana, we made truffles, turtles, toffee and peppermint bark. I have not made candy before so it was a lot of fun and I have some great holiday gifts ideas not too mention tons of candy at home.
-Since getting married, I have acquired 5 nieces and 1 nephew and during the fall come the "our kids are raising money for their school" emails. So the Hubs and I set a cash limit and will be purchasing something from each set of kids.
-The fall catalogs have started to come in making me lust for clothes and shoes. I looked at them, drooled and tossed them in the recycle bin. No new things this year.
-The days are getting shorter and that means I leave and come home at dawn and dusk. Getting up in the morning is harder without the sun.
-We've decided to try one new recipe a week for the next few weeks (to start off with). So far this week I made quiche Lorraine (amazing) and the Hubs made chocolate Carmel donut holes. tonight I am making saffron and potato garlic soup!
-I am in a weird state of mind and I am trying to sort things out. In a way, I feel very alone and isolated, like I don't belong in certain situations and I am sort of giving up in trying to belong (there is no use in forcing my way in parts where it is starting to become obvious that I am not a part of). It is something that I am trying to figure out and it frankly sucks. I can't really talk about because it is so complex and people will think it is stupid and I have been extremely hard on myself. I want to be out of this hole but can't see the light just yet and I have to be careful not to be sucked into my own self pity party. Not going so well....
This has nothing to do with my marriage!!! He has been such a support during this time, he has watched me become more negative and self deprecating and tries to pull me up but, it is me who has to realize a few things rather than take things at face value. But it has been hard.
I am trying, I am trying...
Friday, September 25, 2009
It means that I will have some soup for lunch, keep hydrated and hopefully fend off this bug with out a trail of tissues.
What are your "getting a cold" symptoms and your "Cures"?
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Just the bits of what has been going on…
-Have been reading voraciously. I currently have two books going at once. Hubs gave me a Kindle for my wedding gift and I have been reading every night. currently reading "My Life in Paris" by Julia Child. She is a remarkable person and has such a classic love story and relationship with her husband Paul. It makes me want to move to Paris.
-For my birthday last week, Hubs gave me the ubiquitous cookbook "Mastering the Art of French Cooking" by Julia Childs. We've been talking nonstop about her since we were in Paris then saw "Julie and Julia". Her recipes are copy written so they are not on line. But I really like the way she writes and I am planning on making a few dishes. Anyone interested in a dinner pot luck at my house (seriously)….Can we say Camembert soufflé?
-I have decided months ago that this fall, I will make beef stock. As God is my witness, I will make it.
-The past few nights, I have been beading. I haven't uploaded any photos because I need to create a light box since the photos are not coming out well. It is on my to do list. I also need to buy more beads but I have to wait a few weeks to do that!
-We are 98% done with our Thank you notes. We errr I have to buy stamps.
Monday, September 21, 2009
There has been little chaos, little drama as of late and while that in and of itself is blissful, it is also a wee bit boring. I love hanging out with Hubs and being his wife. Things just slowed up, that is the way that it is.
Other than starting the process of changing my name, nothing glam or exciting has happened in the past few days.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Regardless, I do force myself out especially if I have prior commitments. So Sunday the Hubs and I went to see U2. It was utterly amazing, the set, the songs the vibe. It was one concert that I did not want to end. It is one of my top concerts that I have ever seen!
Last night, I went to Shecky's girls night out with CBN and J9. We had a lot of fun and the few drinks were loaded, so it took me just one drink and I was done. During the evening, J9 mentioned acupuncture and the energy she gets from it. So I may look into that. I just am not feeling fully charged (no I am not pregnant) but I think part of that is the lack of sleep. My cat has a bad habit of scratching my closet to illicit a response and it wakes me up every single time. I have bought a spray that seems to be working but, from weeks of interrupted sleep takes its toll!
Does anyone have experience with acupuncture to share?
Friday, September 11, 2009
It was a beautiful day in NYC, blue sky with a few wisps of clouds.
I took the train into the city as per usual, but I was by myself. Dad had to go to a funeral and would be on a later train.
Instead of heading to my office , I went to my doctor's office.
It was there that I heard whispers "Planes….World Trade Center"
It was in my doctor's office when he came in and told me what happened.
I had to head to mid-town, the subways were empty as they passed by, finally one stopped
I headed to Herald Square and walked towards 5th
My cell phone did not work
It was on 34th and 5th that I saw tower 1 fall
It was there that traffic stopped…the world stopped
It was there that I heard silence and screams in a matter of seconds
It was there that the woman standing next to me fell on her knees and the man next to me started to cry
All in front of the Empire State Building…the tallest building on that island.
I ran across the street that was motionless to my office a few doors down
I walked in and all my co-workers were on the phone and watching the TV.
We had only 5 working lines
I had 7 messages on my phone
My friend could not find her husband, an NYPD officer
My co-worker could not get in touch with her friends that worked downtown
My other co-worker remembered that his cousin was in the building
It was there when I called my mom and finally got her
I was in the office when I heard her say "Your father went in to the office after the first plane hit, he has to check on his staff"
A few moments later "Tower two fell
My dad worked in tower two.
My VP walked out and told us that he was leaving the city and we all could go
My boss and I went to Grand Central to find it closed with police all around
"Harlem", I said," we have to make it to Harlem"
We took a bus to Harlem
It was packed, people wanted out of the city
People were crying
People in private cars, pulled over and let pedestrians into their cars
Strangers were crying and hugging each other on the streets
People just stopped to stare
There was the train at Harlem to take me home
It was standing room only
People in the vestibule were listening to the radio
We heard….Pentagon…plane down in Pennsylvania….terror….World Trade Center
I got home at around 2:13 in the afternoon
We had 21 messages on our answering machine.
The phone rang within minutes of me getting home
My aunt began to cry when she heard my voice
I turned on the TV and paced
I was in shock
I called my friends who I knew had family and loved ones in that area
I took messages for my mom
I had no idea where my dad was
A half hour later, he walked through the door, slightly covered in some dust
For 100 days there was dust, smoke and a smell that you can't ever get out of your skin and to this day, the memory burns my nose
Sirens were a constant but when it reached a certain pitch, I began to shake still
It was like a dream, a bad dream
The stories came pouring out with the tears, some of luck others of misfortune
My friend's sister was ok
My friends husband was at fashion week in Bryant Park so he was not patrolling downtown
My other co-worker lost 5 friends and spend days looking for her former fiancée in all the area hospitals… she found him a few days later with short term memory loss
My co-worker's cousin was found alive and was the last one of the survivors to leave the hospital
But there were people who lost their spouse, partner, friend, child, parent
Pets lost their mom and dads
I have not worn the beige blazer that I had on that day ever again.
But that is all I remember.
Note-I have been meaning to write this for many years but this is the first time that I put it all in writing. I still mourn for my city, it was never the same.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
He asked me if being married and referring to Hubs as my "husband" feels different. I did not have to take long to answer.
Hubs and I have been together for over three years and lived together for over two. So, we did not go through the traditional moving in together. when we first moved in together it was a bit of an eye opening experience and it took some time to adjust to the small things but now we are so used to it. We are relatively low maintenance sometimes a good home cooked meal and a DVD is all we need.
One thing that seemed to shift was our priorities. We now are more focused on our future and our family. Our priorities are aligned better and we both are making some sacrifice to reach our goals. We are working hard on reducing our collective debt and trying to find ways to enrich ourselves together as well as individually. We have not lost our independence and we both support it.
I guess it is because he is the missing puzzle piece, the yang to my yin but being with him as his girlfriend, fiancee or wife is uncomplicated and that makes it easy.
What about you, did you feel different when you reached a milestone in your relationship?
Tuesday, September 08, 2009
The two highlights were taking a wire and bead class with Diana We spent a few hours learning how to make earrings using different wire techniques. Then we went shopping and bought beads. I have made two earrings so far (not including the four that I made in class) and have to stop myself because otherwise I will be at the craft stores non-stop and we want to get out of debt so we are watching every penny. Diana and I had so much fun though and are going to take a necklace class next month. I think we have found a new creative outlet.
The second highlight was making these short ribs. For the past few weeks, I have been craving short ribs and asked Restaurant Refugee for a recipe so he posted this one. It was so good, the beef melted in your mouth and the bones fell out when I picked them up. We have enough for one more meal and I am saving the bones for my fall project when I attempt beef stock.
I had a great weekend very low key, uneventful and fun. I had a great time with my girl Diana and it was nice to spend some time at home with our NetFlix account.
So what were your two highlights?
Friday, September 04, 2009
Tuesday, September 01, 2009
We are in debt due to the wedding, not a great deal but still in some debt. It freaks me out the "d" word up until now, I have always paid the balance off on my credit card. This last payment, I could not. It really freaked me out, I had many sleepless nights and have been in a very introspective mood. I also have been looking around the house for assets that I can sell. We have a few things that we want to post on Craigslist so we have decided that anything we make will go towards our debt repayment.
We have also decided to be more vigilant and use a budget when we go grocery shopping or shopping in general. We have been fortunate that we have this grocery store around the corner that is hands down cheaper than most of the major stores and we can go there and get more for less. We also are going to use the entertainment that we already have our gym membership and our Netflix.
Each dollar that we save will be used towards our debt. We are looking at ways where we can cut costs and have some really good ideas to use the craft products we bought for our wedding for the holidays.
We hope to have it paid off by the holidays and we are doing it together!
Monday, August 31, 2009
To tired and lazy to compose some cohesive thoughts so...
- We have gotten our photos back and they are amazing, just waiting for the disk so I can upload a few
- Was a huge homebody this weekend, I left the house once on Saturday.
- We found a lost cat in our complex yesterday afternoon, thankfully it turned out to be our neighbors
- Did massive amounts of laundry
- We are halfway done with out thank you notes.
- I heart my new crock pot, love it.
- My house is looking better then a few days ago
- I have to cancel my dentist appointment this week, no change in the coffers right now
- We have to get our marriage licence, I got to start the name changing process
- Thinks fall came early...like in July
- I can't beleive my birthday is coming up, where did a year go.
- Plans to finally post some items on Craigslist to sell
- I could not get out of bed this morning because the cat was all cuddly
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
On top of this I am feeling somewhat bitter. I don't want to get into why I am bitter about a few things because it would be feeding into it and I just don't want to do it. I should be happy but part of me is still hurt and upset about a few things. Bitter and blue make for a not-so-fun combo!
So while this is swirling in my head, my issues with self esteem have re-surfaced as well and let's just say, I am not too happy with a few things (things that I can't change and things I can). I have to start my gym routine again (I decided to start in September) and slowly get rid of clothes and shoes to de-clutter and save for some better outfits. But in the meantime, I am still having my issues and I can't pass the hump.
I am really missing my friends and family who made the trek for our wedding. It is hard knowing that I will not be seeing them for the rest of the year and may not be able to see them until late next year.
I feel stuck in a rut so to speak, I have all this pent up energy that gets wasted since I used it all to work on favors, seating cards etc. Now I just go home, cook (sometimes) and vet out in front of the TV or read. The Hubs mentioned that he is feeling the same way. So we have decided to look at taking a few classes independently me beading and painting and for him classes in digital photography. Well we plan on this once the coffers fill up again.
I just don't know what to do with myself in the meantime.
Monday, August 24, 2009
I was up before my alarm, took a shower, ordered room service and just had some "me" time before things started to ramp up. I was on a media black out, I just wanted some quiet time.
The chaos started at 9:30 with my hairdresser (love her) starting on the girls. In the meantime, I was under the assumption that my brother was on his way from the airport to the hotel. Until I saw my mom! She started conferring with my matron of honor and all I could see were hand gestures they were speaking softly. I had to find out what was going on. They did not want to tell me, but finally my MOH blurts out "There was a bomb scare in LaGuardia and they had to evacuate the airport.". My brother was on his plane ready to take off when they had to go back to the gate, evacuate the plane, evacuate the terminal, get the all clear and start the process over again. His 6:30 flight left two hours late.
Needless to say, I was a bit freaking out. Thankfully, we were able to track his flight and once we saw that it took off, we were relieved. Some of my mom's friends were unable to make it as their airlines could not accommodate them in time.
At 11:40 am, I got a text from my brother telling me he is at the hotel. Less than two hours before we had to leave for the church.
There was some high fiving and tears of relief as he made it.
I will do some more re-caps in the next few weeks once I get my photos!
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
A few weeks before the wedding, Hubs sent out an email to the entire wedding party telling them not to be late. As an aside to the groomsmen, he asked that they try on their tux at the shop in case they needed any alterations or changes. It apparently amused some people but for the most part put the fear of God in others. We had to send that email out because there was one person in the party who is notoriously late and he was a part of our day so if he was late I would kill him. (we are talking hours late not a few minutes).
So my brother (not the late one) was a bit nervous and asked us to pick him up from the airport so that he can try on and pay for his tux. Well he decided (against my pleads not to) to fly in on Friday morning. Flying into/out of O'Hare is never a smooth experience. I have had flights delayed or canceled more than I have had them leave/arrive on time. So I asked him to come in Thursday but he wanted to arrive Friday morning.
Well the 11:30 text…"My 8 am flight was canceled, re-booked for 1". Meaning that he will barely arrive with time to get the tux, shower and head to the rehearsal. Ok fine, we'll pick him up and drive like hell.
we woke up without a care In the world, we were getting married in one day. So we looked at our to do list and had to run an errand that included getting my brother, a back pack, picking up pies and a cake and then head home to get ready for our rehearsal. As per my brother, the flight was still on time so we went our merry way. Accomplished 1/5 of our errands when the phone rang…it was Hubs' brother. He was staying with a friend and did not know how he was going to make it to the rehearsal (he is a cheap-o and did not want to pay for a cab). so we agreed to pick him up, have him get ready at our place and take him with us. Except, when we got closer to his friend's place he was out to lunch! We finally picked him up and then went to pick up pies. Traffic in Chicago was a nightmare. It took us almost 4 hours to get 4 things done (we picked up my brother's tux without him)!
Well that 1 pm flight that my brother was scheduled for left on time did a circle and landed back at the original airport. Engine problems…he was not sure when the next flight would be. So he has me freaking out, my mom and I were on the phone nonstop. Although at this point it was more her and my brother figuring out what to do. I felt like vomiting and was so stressed out.
Finally, I am home, showered and ready to go to our rehearsal, the Hubs is showered and ready to go, his brother is showered and taking a nap!
We woke him up and raced to our rehearsal (we were late which was a joke considering the email). We had the rehearsal (with stand ins for my bro) , I got to talk to some wedding party members who I have not seen in ages, and we headed out to eat.
The dinner was nice and loud with my nieces dancing around and the wine flowing. My father-in-law gave a lovely speech and our party loved their gifts.
The fate of my brother at this time is unknown...
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
It was a whirlwind, so I am going to chronicle the days leading up to the wedding:
My bridesmaid j9 had the Hubs, my parents and I over for dinner. She made a feast for us and wanted to do something to help so she made us dinner. Everyone had a great time especially my mom and her husband who talked smacked about each other's NY baseball team. (Mom is a huge Mets fan aka anti-Yankee) so it was fun to watch.
We both decided to take Thursday off and since my matron of honor was in town, it was a declared girls day. We met her at the hotel where we had to drop some things off and then he did his thing and we did ours. So she and I headed back to our place and she helped me clean up and tidy up. It was so needed and it was fun to have someone just as silly as you helping out. Afterwards, we went to pick up the dress so, we headed downtown. The best thing that the bridal shop could have done was just give us the dress at reception which they did, MR was ready to tell the head of alterations off after the first incident that happened when she called me fat and said a few nasty things and then threatened to charge me for her mistake. MR is a Brooklyn girl so you do not mess with her girls. Thankfully, she did not get to use the speech she was preparing in the car.
Once we got the dress, we headed back to the hotel since she was the keeper of the dress. We laid it out and she started to get teary. She had not seen the dress nor have I showed them any pictures. She got goose bumps and kept hugging me. We of course had to call my mom who was at the hotel and she came up and we ogled the dress.
Finally, it was mani and pedi time so we went up to a spa in Evanston. Afterwards, Hubs met up with us for wings and we had a blast hanging out. Afterwards, she headed back to the hotel and we went home.
Around 9 we got a call from some of my friends who landed at Midway and were coming to stay with j9 but since she and her husband were at the Sox/Yankee game, they came to stay at our place until j9 got back. It was good to catch up with them for a few hours before the wedding since I did not really get to see them afterwards.
At 11:30 pm a text came in for me that was the biggest stress of the weekend….
Monday, August 17, 2009
Thursday, July 30, 2009
But before I check out of blogland I wanted to say thanks to...
Diana and CBN for their friendship and support during this process. The let me vent over tapas and sangria. The were a big support and provided a lot of laughter not to mention crossing state lines for an illicit evening.
Nilsa for her advise, suggestions and recommendations. I appreciate your emails and your words of encouragement by making sure I keep my eyes on the prize. It helped me breath and realize it will all be okay.
Jessica for your cheery messages and for coming out to the Field with us. It was great to meet Bob and Seth and realize that we will be a family too. Not to mention taking us out of wedding madness to enjoy the city we live in.
Pseudostoops for meeting with me and helping me navigate our trip to Paris with suggestions and advise. I will have a gelato for you girl!
For Resturant Refugee, a new favorite read, many thanks for your email full of good wishes. That made my day!
I will be passing my baton err bouquet to Non Sequitur Chica, Pasiana and Amber. May your weddings are filled with laughter, love, family and friends.
Although I have had the good fortune to meet you all via this unique medium and I appreciate all your support. Thank you....see you on the flip side.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
SM is the BFs older sister, they are separated by 11 years. She is a very ambitious woman with a high profile job in a well known company. She has travelled all over the world and has even been in an elevator with U2. In addition to her work, she is a mom to three girls. She provides them the balance and shows them how far women can really go. While she and her brother are not too close but they share a similar sense of humor. We see them every few months and she has made me feel welcome
My younger brother, well really my only brother. We used to be close as kids but as we grew up, we grew apart. It was further strained a few years ago but we are on the road to repair. He is really busy balancing a stressful job and grad school. It is never an easy task but he is determined to get it done. I am proud of his accomplishments because no matter what happens or what had happened, he is still my brother.
I will be posting for the next day or two....I have a few things that I want to say.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Anyway, on to our next bridal party members:
She is one of the BF's best friends. They have known each other since they were teenagers and have been there for good and not so good. One of my favorite stories is how he lost a bet to her and she made him watch "Beaches" in a face mask at his house (with his brothers around). She is really sweet and when we first got engaged met up with us at his dads house bearing gifts. I've gotten to know her over the years and she is hardworking and very easy going.
I met PK at work, he became the big brother that I never had. When I first moved to Chicago, he kept his eye on me and encouraged me to go out and explore. He is one of the most easy going people I met. Even after he left the company, we would routinely call each other to fill each other in on what is going on and he would tease me and torment me like any brother would do. A few years ago I attended his wedding and watched him go from a single man to a husband and now a father. He was the big brother I never had but somehow found. And he is going to be there when I get married.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Oh and we saw:
She is the BFs niece and perhaps one of the nicest girls around. She and her sister and brother are so polite, attentive, kind and funny. We spent Saturday hanging out with them and their parents and grandpa. She was one of our original choices but due to "family obligations" I was forced to include my sister in law. However, she and my brother have separated and we were able to get C back in the party. She is excited and told her mom, that the dress makes her feel like a princess. I can't wait to spend more time with her on the day!
T is the second actor in the bunch of bridal party members. He moved to LA a few years back and has been seen in a few shorts, commercials and extra roles on TV. Last year we were watching TV when the BF yelled that his brother is in a commercial. It was really cool. T is very funny, quick witted and just an interesting guy to hang out with. Ask him who the cheapest tipper in Hollywood is...We are glad he is flying in to support his brother and walk with his niece.
Friday, July 24, 2009
I met J9 in college, we were in similar classes and had some of the same professors. WE just became friends and it ebbed and flowed though our years there. After college, we both worked in NYC and we would sometimes pass each other walking to our jobs. Then I moved to Chicago and about a year and a half later, so did she. She bought a place in Rogers Park and a few years later so did we. We now live 5 blocks from each other, we hang out with our guys and our pets. She is a loud, opinion, organized and kind person. She is no push over and that is what I love about her. I am glad that she will be there in 8 days.
This is one of the BF's brothers. He is a quiet music lover type of guy. As with most of this brothers, the BF and RQ have their own language and they have some funny stories of growing up. We tend not to see RQ as often as we would like but we are glad that he will be there and standing up next to Tim.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
If anyone wants to get together, informally let me know. My weekend is pretty flexible.
Re-Caps continue tomorrow...
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
So to continue on with the members of the wedding party, I want to introduce two more:
I met PDB at work, she worked with the matron of honor and that is how we met. She was this firecracker who had some strong ideas and would force you to look at things differently. She and her husband are perfect for each other, it is like watching a dance, they move so well together. She used to have this huge purse and would inevitable have to find something at the bottom and if he was next to her he would hold his hand out so that she can put her wallet or whatever in his hands while she searched. But they would not skip a beat in conversation or what they were doing, they just worked. Their marriage is such an inspiration to me, they truly love each other and laugh every day. they have two beautiful and well adjusted kids. She is a woman in so many ways.
The BF and SA have been friends for years. In fact they both have sandwich named after them in a local bagel place. They are kindred spirits in a way. Since SA loves movies, the BF always has a date for the movies that I do not want to see. I met SA almost a year into our relationship because our paths never met. I used to tease the BF that SA was a unicorn, a mythical creature only seen by some. But once I met SA, I knew why he is such a good friend. He is laid back, funny, sweet and kind, when we hang out, it is a lot of fun. He is very creative and has a local band and is holding back on touring until after our wedding. He is "super psyched" to be a part of it.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Our to do list has gotten a lot smaller and now we are focusing on the honeymoon and beyond. We have some more wedding tasks to do but they will be nailed out tonight.
Our first guests arrive this week and we are heading out to the burbs this weekend to see them. After all, the kids are part of our wedding.
It seems so surreal that it is this close.
In the next few days, I will be detailing people in our wedding party since they are so close to us. Today let's start with the Matron of honor and the Best Man.
Matron of honor:
She and I met in college, we were neighbors and we met early on in my freshman year. She was a year older and we just clicked. Throughout the college experience we ebbed and flowed but we would always come back together for long chats. After college, she went to work in what I thought would be my dream job. A few years later, she convinced her boss to hire me and I am still in the same business. She was bitten by the acting bug and has produced, starred in shows off Broadway. She has been an extra in various TV shows and has written, starred and produced some indy films. She was my roommate in NYC before I moved here and a five years ago, I stood up in her wedding. She is the sister I never had but wanted and the best friend anyone can have.
M is the BF's brother. There are six kids in the fam and the BF is the baby, M is the fifth kid. When the two of them get together, you just have to sit back and watch. They are Oscar and Felix but with their own language. They quote the most obscure move lines known to man and have a "who can lay the best insult" on other people. He is getting married in October and we just adore his fiancé. She and I are good friends that we hang out without the boys. The four of us have so much fun together. I know that he is thrilled (in his own way) to be part of our day and the BF and I are so happy to have him.
Friday, July 17, 2009
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
So the BF is traveling for work and that leaves me at home with the ever growing to do list. But I have been able to cross quite a bit of them off. In fact I am a bit ahead of the game. I knew that the devil will be in the details and that is proven to be correct. All the tiny decisions have to be finalized. On top of that, we have to clean the apartment because over the next few weeks people will be in and out so we just need a through clean and daily tidy tasks. Although it is easier said than done.
So tonight is my last night alone and I have plenty to that I want to do. So we'll see how far it goes before I get caught up on a movie. But most of my list is achievable and I can't wait to cross them off!
I would love to be able to tie some swiffer pads to the paws of the cat but he will not be amused,
Monday, July 13, 2009
What I did not account for was all the tears. I knew some people would not be able to make it but as the final numbers came in, I was very disappointed and sad. I know that there are obligations and financial concerns, I get that but it still does not help me because I am so upset by it. I have travel all over the world for weddings and now when it is mine, people can't. It is the battle between the rational and the emotional. Right now the emotional is winning. I am just so sad.
I appreciate all the "yes" people but it is some of the nos, that have really hurt me.
I'll get over it but like many before me, I won't forget it.
Tuesday, July 07, 2009
There are a few things that are causing more stress than others. Namely transportation issues, my dad offered to deal with it, then passed it back to me (who freaked out) so he took it back and now it is in a state of flux.
There are other emotions….I am sad/disappointed that some friends won't be able to make it. We suspected as much due to the tanking economy but we did not think it would be as bad as it is. Some of our friends are coming without their spouses. While we are so glad that many of the people we wanted and love are going to be there, we can't help but feeling bummed when certain people send their regrets.
There is anger…why anger, well due to my soon to be asshole of a brother in law (not one of the BF's brothers but the man who married his sister). A few weeks ago he cornered the BF at a family BBQ and asked if we would have a cake at the wedding for his daughter's birthday. Her birthday is the next day but since all the family would be there, he thought it would be nice to call her up, have everyoen sing her happy birthday and present her a cake. When I heard about it, I put my foot down.
This was my only Bridezilla moment, because I am sorry, under no circumstances will I be forced to do this at the reception. The BF's dad was appalled at the suggestion, as was the BF's sister. His dad said it was because her father is not participating in the day, he saw this as "his moment" as the father of the birthday girl. He wants any sort of spotlight, we have him written into our DJ contract so that he does not get the mic!
After seeing red and calming down, we decided to have a cake for her at the rehearsal dinner. That way, we control the situation and cut him at the pass. Oh and to steal his thunder, we are presenting another cake after the birthday cake, to celebrate the BF's brother's anniversary since it does fall on the day of the rehearsal.
But there is happiness…we are a few weeks out before it is official. Happiness to head away for a few weeks.
I know it will all get done and what will be will be. But in the meantime….ACK!
Monday, July 06, 2009
Friday was our busiest day with us helping the BF's brother and fiancée move something to their storage unit. After a great lunch, I headed to get ready for a fitting. While I was in my gown, the BF got ready for our BBQ. We had a few people over and it turned into a great night. The BF manned the grill with the guys and the ladies and I chatted. Everyone had a great time especially the dog who was adored, petted and played with. She is still recovering from all the excitement.
The rest of the weekend was full of errands and crossing things off of our "to-do" list. We are trying to get to get as much as we can done before the big day. We have done a lot but there is always more things popping on the list.
I know as the date gets closer we will be more stressed out and frazzled but we are trying to stay on top of things. Plus, we are getting excited about leaving it all behind as we head to the honeymoon. Because nothing says relax like Paris and Barcelona.
Wednesday, July 01, 2009
Yet, as things slowly fall into place, my stress level has gone up. I have to remind myself to eat because I am not stress eater but rather the opposite. In fact, I made it a point to tell a few of my bridesmaids to ensure that I eat on the day of the wedding. August is hot and I do not want to be a fainting bride.
I am very aware of all the possible scenarios and that on that day what ever will be will be. I am not freaking out about the things that I can't control like the weather. I find certain tasks calming and trying not to get worked up. That being said there are plenty of things that get me worked up (i.e. my parents and there last minute "suggestions"). I am trying to balance the last appointments with the finances, trying to balance the ying and the yang.
But regardless, the most important thing is that in one month, I will marry my best friend. I will be his wife, he will be my husband. I will walk down that aisle with my father, listening to the music we picked, looking at the guests who we invited and I will walk to the man I love.
That my friends, is priceless.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Everyone got along so well and many were able to put names to faces and make new introductions. I suspect that there were many facebook exchanges over the past few days!
Afterwards a few of us headed out for tapas and the sangria and tapas were flowing. Everyone had a really great time.
Yesterday, I dropped my mom and my friend at the airport and came home. It was strange to have an empty place after a few days of having it full. But it was only a few hours later that the BF came home with his stories from his trip. We caught each other up and talked until we fell asleep. I woke up in his arms and knew that we were home.
Four weeks to go!
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
-The BF's brother is hoping to be released today, all the tests came back negative and he is now on a series of drugs for up to 6 months to help. He was to be released yesterday but they had calabrate the meds. He has been in good and sarcastic spirits and his fiancé deserves an award for all the things she has done for him and the family. We've visited him every day and we know that it was much appreciated.
-My condo is a disaster area (see above). It would not matter but the BF is heading out of town this weekend and my friend is staying with me for a few days. Tonight and tomorrow are "operation clean".
-We got our sideboard, looks great. Now we have extra furniture that we have to get rid off/sell/give away. I don't want to toss them.
-Our hotel in Paris canceled our reservations because they are renovating the hotel. so they re-booked us at this crappy place and I am not happy about it. So now the craziness begins. And caused some emotional eating for lunch yesterday.
The fun never stops but, all in all we are glad that the BF's bro is doing better and that is all that really matters!
Monday, June 22, 2009
Things have been going really well on the wedding planning front. We asked the BF's niece to be a junior bridesmaid (I told her mom the whole story which involved my soon to be ex sister in law backing out of the wedding) and she is very excited. Her first question was what she was to do with her hair. We are going to pair her up with her favorite uncle so that sweetened the deal! We are so happy she will participate. The BF also picked up his groomsman gifts and started to get ready for his trip this coming weekend.
On Saturday, I was getting ready for a facial when I got a text from the BF, it was a text to call him immediately after the facial. Of course, that is never a good thing so I called and it turned out his brother was in the hospital. So after an hour of pampering I headed to the hospital. His brother was in his room and was not looking that good but the prognosis was better and they are working on getting him back on his feet. So most of Saturday and yesterday we were in the hospital hanging out with him, his finance and his dad. We know he will be ok since yesterday he was sarcastic, surly and funny, so he is back. Plus his color has returned. Today they are planning another test to rule out a few more things and he should be home tomorrow.
So we did not get part of our honey do list but we spent the weekend with family and when the chips are down, we will always pull together.
Unless you are one of the future brother in law's who I seriously want to hit….more on that later.