Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Second guesses

Yesterday afternoon out of the blue I started to second guess some wedding things. Part of this was spurred on by a quote for a vendor for linens and transportation. So this lead to a mini-freak out. I started to second guess the photographer, the save the dates and other details. I think part of it is some wedding blogs and sites that I read. They have these great ideas but I just don't have the time nor money to do all the things that I want to do. So I am doing the best that I can but, it still makes me question almost everything.

Part of the freak out is that I have never planned a wedding before and there are tons of details that need to be done and pop into my head at random times, the other part is that I am so burned out on wedding things and the other part is the budget, we have a hypothetical one. One that does not take into account how we will pay for some things. So that freaks me out.

I love the planning and the dreaming of ideas process but the reality of the situation causes stress. It is easy to be consumed by the planning and the stress that comes with it. Sure I can ask people to help but I can't even figure out what they can help with. I would love to "shelf" the wedding plans but I did that when I was in NJ so now I have to work on the next to do items.

I just wish I was confident enough to trust the people we are hiring and not second guess them for no reason. Sure my wedding will not be written about but it is our day and we are two unique non cookie cutter people. I think that I have to trust us as well.

What stresses you out and causes you to second guess things at random?


SoMi's Nilsa said...

Here's a little piece of advice from a recent bride. No matter how hard you work to line things up for the wedding, something (or many things) will not go as planned on your wedding day. It will not take away from the beauty of the day. So, work away between now and your day. But on your day? Trust it will be beautiful. And allow yourself to relax and enjoy it. Because it just isn't worth stressing up until the very end.

Non Sequitur Chica said...

Don't stress about the vendors you have picked or the choices that you have made. You have already made those decisions and they are going to be great! Trust that these people are experts- they know how important making YOU happy for your big day is (hi Internet reviews!).

Kaylen said...

I second-guess a lot of parenting issues that come up with my teenager.

Weddings are always going to be stressful to plan.
I agree with others---just plan as much as you can now, get it down,turn it over to others, enjoy the thoughts of what it will be like---but then on the big day, just let it all go happen and unfold as it may.