Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Guess again...

It has been no secret that I have been second guessing everything about the wedding from my dress to the flowers, to the venue to the food to the photographer to the date and beyond. I think it is because it is so unknown to me what it is like to be a bride. I've been to plenty of weddings but orchestrating one is a completely different. My friend told me the other day (I a moment of irrational crisis on my part) that she loved getting married but hated being the bride. I can see that point.

I am not one to jump into the spotlight and I can be very indecisive and I tend to second guess a lot of my decisions as they happen. Part of it also has to deal with the crap that we had to deal with from our families. Every decision was a battle with someone and after a while, it made us question certain things.

But that comes with the territory and I have accepted that onions, comments and suggestions that are both welcomed and unwelcomed. We have about 80 days left and I have to make the decision to trust myself or question every little thing….I am planning on trusting myself.

4 comments:

SoMi's Nilsa said...

The thing about weddings is they can be beautiful, lovely events 100,000 different ways. Questioning decisions seems logical because things *could* be beautiful the other way. But, you know what? Things will be beautiful your way. Because it's you and your man in one of the most special ceremonies a couple can share while surrounded by your most loved family & friends. All the details matter no more when you focus on that.

Non Sequitur Chica said...

Trust yourself!! There are so many things to do that you don't have time to revisit decisions already made, vendors already booked, etc. Your wedding is going to be great!

Jessica said...

No worries. You'll have no regrets. :)

restaurant refugee said...

Taking wedding advice from a divorced guy who will probably never remarry is a specious concept. That won't stop me from offering the two pieces of good advice I remember from my wedding anyway...

1: 99.9% of free wedding advice is worth exactly what you pay for it. This advice is likely no exception. The percentage increases for paid advice that should be free.

2: No matter what happens during a wedding, no matter what choices you make in advance of the wedding, the only decision that matters is the one that starts the rest of your life together when you choose to say "I do."